loving the UNLOVABLE

March 2, 2008

Imagine an environment wherein you’re surrounded with very nice people. People who are easy to get along with, positive thinkers, encouragers, generous and cheerful. There’s no reason not to give away your love to them easily, because they’re lovable & adorable. Wow! What a perfect world we have!
I said, just imagine. Because in reality, well, the other way around. And the truth is, we’re surrounded with unlovable people. I’ll just site some of them:
- The insecure – they’re the ones who insult you the most from head to toe. Physically (your hair, your figure, your fashion statement, everything!); intellectually (your common sense, intellectual capability, educational attainment, etc); morally & spiritually (your attitude & character, your faith, your belief, your spiritual stand). They say bad things about your whole being because actually they envy you. To hide the insecurity inside them, they will just insult you. Their shortcomings, to justify it, they will throw it to you. Come’ on!
- The unappreciated - "unappreciated people won’t & will never appreciate other people" Because you can’t give what you don’t receive. They won’t appreciate the things they like about you, but they will just imitate it later on. That’s it.
- The boastful - everybody hates these kinds of people. "Some people tend to boast on the things that they actually don’t have or possess" You don’t need to be overly proud of the things you have because the people around you will notice it right away.
- The self-proclaimed - these are the ones who don’t acknowledge other people. "akology" is their course (hehe). They’re only familiar with words like I, my, me, mine, myself. They’re not interested with other people’s story. They’re just interested with their own stories. They think they are the greatest in all aspects. Woohoo!
- The negative ones - "I don’t think I can make it; I think it won’t happen; I doubt; I don’t think so” Come’ on! This people can have the most influence in a group. I don’t know why. Maybe because, it’s much easier being pessimist rather than being optimist. They’re very good in negating, they don’t find even a bit of positive result in everything. I salute them. haha!
- The contradicting ones - Agreeing (yes) is not in their vocabulary. Even if you’re on the right track or side, they will contradict you right away! They think that they are always correct. If they don’t like your idea, ask for theirs, & notice them, they don’t actually know what to answer. If you’re on the north side, they’re on the south side. Yeah, that’s them. Tsk.
- The story makers - Oh well, I think these are the ones who’ll excel in writing scripts. They have a wide imagination. They have futuristic powers. They can advance your thinking, haha! They can change the flow & what’s really happening around. They’re not trustworthy. Once you shared your story, believe me, it will have another interpretation. And prepare to hear the worst things about you.
- The hot-tempered, heartless - Oh-no! They are like bulldogs. Don’t you ever dare touch them or else you’re a dead meat! They don’t know how to laugh or even smile. They own a face with eyebrows always meeting at the center. They’re full of angst & anger. Poor ones.
- The plastic & the ones who possess different faces - Best actors & actresses. They can make you believe that he or she is on your side. They are back fighters. But they are actually cowards, they can’t voice out what they really feel inside.
- The approval addicts - "ksp" hehe. They want the whole world to appreciate them. What they’re wearing, their accomplishments, etc. "you can please everybody" is their motto in life. They will force you to appreciate them. hay.
- The blaming ones - They will try to escape what they have done wrong & blame it to you as if they’re innocent. They are slow in admitting their own mistakes.
Are they familiar? Yeah! We have no choice but to deal with these kinds of people. We tend to be irritated with them & eventually be like them. And we’re also hurting inside, we’re affected somehow the way they treat us.
But according to the Bible "loving your neighbors as you love yourself" the Lord didn’t speak here to love the lovable people (the ones who are nice) but to love the capital U-N-L-O-V-A-B-L-E people (as I’ve sited earlier) Yes. It’s really hard & difficult. But look at Jesus. We too, are very unlovable & unworthy. But He chose to offer His life to us because He loves us. & He wants us to do the same. We don’t need to be crucified, in order to express it. But to simply deal with them just what Jesus has commanded us. To love them.
The truth is .The people (I’ve sited earlier) are the ones who have the least attention, appreciation, security, & love in their lives. They are actually the poor & wretched ones . The Lord given us much of His love, & He wants us to give it forward to other people. Overflowing love & appreciation should be extended to those who are lacking of it. It is not that easy, but the Lord’s grace is sufficient for us to do it.
Why don’t you just give them a smile, when they say negative things about you? Why don’t you just forgive them? Why don’t you just remain silent instead of exchanging hurtful words with them? Why don’t you just understand them (because actually they don’t also understand themselves)? Why don’t you just give them Jesus? = )
Loving the lovable is but an automatic, normal & common thing (no challenge at all). Would you settle for it? But the Lord wants us to do uncommon & perfect will in our lives. It’s loving the U-N-L-O-V-A-B-L-E.. ^_^